Have you ever been faced with that tongue tied feeling of hopelessness? You most certainly are not alone. Nearly everyone will have at some time become stuck for words.
How can you stop this from happening? Simply follow the easy steps below. You’ll gain confidence and ensure you always know what to say.
Here are some great tips to stop that tongue tied feeling and loss of conversational skills:
- Finish previous topics of conversation
That tongue tied feeling, more often than not can come from having a brain full of ideas, and not finishing previous topics of conversation. Make sure that you finish each and every conversation on your agenda.
Don’t leave it till your brain is a factory of unfinished topics of talk. This really doesn’t help you in making good conversation.
- Observe before talking
Some of the best conversation makers are successful because they have the ability to listen, and not just to be listened to! So if you are feeling tongue tied and there’s a knot at the tip of your tongue trapping the words, sit back and watch how other people are talking!
It’s a short study period and will help you considerably in your method of approaching a conversation. Once you can see what people enjoy talking about its easy to re-join the conversation.
- If it doesn’t make sense then don’t say it!
Half the time you get tongue tied, this feeling comes as you are talking nonsense that really is not relevant to anyone!
Make sure that the words are necessary and that the topic needs to be addressed. Just by following this simple method of untying your tongue you will maintain an audience of listeners.
4. Ignore those whose ears don’t tune in!
If their ears don’t listen then don’t be disheartened. The same way that you are struggling to be heard, there are people that struggle in the listening process! If your words are falling on deaf ears you can’t help it. Some people really are limited in thought and you can’t draw their attention span with your words.
5. Practice before you speak
Start putting in to practice the words that are in your head; perhaps you could ask a family member to sit down and listen to you before you decide to go public with the conversation.
By doing this you will have had a test run period, this will be a practice for the real thing (a stage rehearsal) helping you to focus and more importantly be focused on.
6. Before talking take a deep breath
A small change such as taking a deep breath of fresh air before talking will help you to maintain focus and remain head strong on the topic of attention.
Half the time when you start to go off road in your thoughts and the speech starts to become difficult to come out, this is a result of not being relaxed. This process of breathing in helps you to feel more relaxed, enabling you to remain focused.
Being tongue tied and losing your words in conversation really is a result of carelessness. If you can stick to the above tips and methods of untying your tongue then you can help to make sure that you don’t get lost for words!
Try to remember that thinking about being lost for words can lead you to the reality of being lost for words. Everyone gets tongue tied, and you really can’t have lived much without having that tongue tied feeling occasionally.
Stay confident, be calm and don’t let nervous thoughts fill your brain just focus on yourself and the words that you need to express!