It’s understandable that you might be nervous meeting new people. After all, you don’t know them so you don’t know what they will think about you or how they will react to you. That can be a worrying thing.
However, there are plenty of things you can do to get over your nervousness and start to enjoy meeting new people.
- Don’t feel you have to impress
You don’t. Have you ever met someone or maybe seen them on TV where they are trying really hard to impress? It’s just not impressive! This kind of approach appears fake and being fake will make people wary of you.
Remember that the people you are meeting are human too: no better or worse than you. They are also unlikely to be judging you as harshly as you fear!
- Don’t go alone if you don’t have to
In many situations, it is perfectly reasonable for you to take a friend with you, unless it is something like a job interview or a professional meeting. Having a friend by your side can help because when things get difficult they can boost your confidence with a few words and maybe even just a smile.
The very fact that they are your friend and wanted to go with you to support you should make you feel better. It shows that you have good qualities that people like about you.
- Take a few deep breaths and smile
You are in control of how you feel. You have the power to calm yourself down. You may be surprised that if you take a moment to breathe deeply that will release the tension in your body and clear your head.
Once you can think clearly, you should be able to see that the situation is not as threatening as you perceived it to be.
- Go prepared
If you are nervous meeting new people, you may find that it is difficult to know what to say. Pre-empt this situation by preparing a few conversation openers or points you want to make. Write them on a postcard and take it with you to help as a prompt.
- Dress comfortably
If you feel good about how you look, you will be more confident when you meet new people. You will feel that it is one less thing on which they could judge you negatively.
So, dress appropriately for the situation, and think about wearing favorite clothes or jewelry that you know you look your best in, or even buying something new for the occasion.
- Stay true to yourself
This is not always easy to do, especially when you feel that the people you are meeting may not like you for who you are. However, you are going to have to live with yourself after this meeting, so regardless of whether people like you or not, it is much more important that you like yourself and that you are happy with how you behaved.
7. Accept that some people won’t like you
You don’t like everyone. You disapprove of the things that some people do. That is fine. But by the same token, don’t expect everyone to like you!
There will no doubt be people whose morals and opinions you dislike. That doesn’t necessarily make them bad people; they are just not your type of people. You are free to dislike some people and that does them no damage whatsoever. The same is true of people disliking you. It doesn’t do you any harm, and you may well not like the ways in which you would have to change yourself to get their approval. It’s not worth it.
Liking yourself is far more important than having other people like you, fortunately, if you like yourself, you are more likely to have people like you. That knowledge, put into practice in these few steps, should help you to not be so nervous meeting new people.